Catholic Funeral Etiquette, Traditions, Do’s and Don’t

On this page

• Why Catholic Funeral Traditions Matter
• What Is a Catholic Funeral
• Elements of a Catholic Funeral
• The Wake
• The Funeral Mass (or Requiem Mass)
• The Burial
• Order of Service of Catholic Funeral Mass
• Catholic Funeral Etiquette
• Roman Catholics and Cremation
• Conclusion
• FAQ

Why Catholic Funeral Traditions Matter

Attending or planning a Catholic funeral can be an intimidating experience, especially for those unfamiliar with Catholic traditions and customs. Knowing proper Catholic funeral etiquette shows respect to the deceased and their family.

In this guide, you’ll learn what a Catholic funeral includes:

• Traditional elements
• Duration of service
• Etiquette and dress code guidelines
• Appropriate keepsakes, and more

With this knowledge, attending or planning a Catholic funeral will become easier and less stressful for everyone involved.

What Is a Catholic Funeral

In traditional Catholic belief, once a person passes away, their body enters a state of waiting until the Resurrection of the Dead at the Time of Judgment.

During this time, funeral rites help the soul rest in peace while providing comfort to those left behind. From burial services to rituals, prayers, and blessings, Catholic funeral traditions help families feel connected to their loved one even after death.

Many burial ceremonies signify the end of intense mourning and provide closure for attendees. Traditional Catholic funeral rites offer comfort while recognizing the importance of life after death.

Elements of a Catholic Funeral

Catholic funerals include the following traditional elements:

• During the ceremony — Mourners light candles in honor of the departed.
• A Catholic Mass — Held in remembrance of the deceased, with scripture readings and prayers recited by clergy or family.
• Brief eulogy or homily — Reflecting on the deceased's life, concluding with a solemn benediction.
• Procession — Attendees accompany the casket to its final resting place.

Remember:

• The funeral should be held promptly after death.
• The funeral should be held at a Catholic church.
• The body or ashes should be present for the funeral Mass.
• Clergy traditionally wear black, though some wear white as a symbol of hope.
• Readings are from Scripture; the homily focuses on resurrection hope.
• Prayers are said for the repose of the deceased's soul.
• Our Father and Hail Mary are recited.
• The Sign of the Cross is made over the casket at the end of Mass.
• A committal service is held at the cemetery.

The Wake

A wake is a vigil held shortly after death for family and friends to bid farewell. Traditionally organized by the family, it may take place at home, a funeral home, or other venue.

Key points about Catholic wakes:

• The length varies by culture and denomination; traditionally three days, contemporary wakes often last one day.
• In Ireland, 'Irish Wakes' may involve night-long gatherings at homes or pubs with stories, songs, and drinks.

The Funeral Mass (or Requiem Mass)

A traditional Requiem Mass is conducted by a priest and may include prayers, scripture readings, lighting candles, a benediction, and accompanying the casket to its final resting place.

The Burial

A Catholic burial usually takes place at a Catholic cemetery, conducted by a priest with scripture readings, prayers, and commemorations.

The mourning period typically lasts three to nine days after the funeral.

Three main elements of a Catholic funeral:

• The Wake
• The Funeral Mass (or Requiem Mass)
• The Burial

The Order of Service of Catholic Funeral Mass

Three main stages:

• The Vigil of Prayer (evening before the funeral)
• The Funeral Liturgy (Mass, Requiem Mass, or Funeral Service)
• The Committal at the cemetery or crematorium

Stage 1: The Vigil

The Vigil of Prayer supports the bereaved and may take place in the home, funeral home, or church. Includes scripture readings, prayers, and the Rosary.

Stage 2: The Funeral Liturgy

The Funeral Liturgy (Mass) commends the soul of the deceased to God. Includes Introductory Rites, Liturgy of the Word, Liturgy of the Eucharist, and Concluding Rite.

Introductory Rites

• Sprinkling of Holy Water
• A Greeting
• Placing of the Pall
• The Opening Prayer

Liturgy of the Word

• Three readings: Old Testament, Psalm, New Testament
• Gospel Acclamation
• Creed
• Homily
• Prayer of the Faithful

Liturgy of the Eucharist

• Presentation of Gifts
• Eucharistic Prayer
• Lord's Prayer
• Sign of Peace
• Lamb of God
• Holy Communion
• Eulogy
• Prayer

Concluding Rites

• Closing Prayers
• Final Blessing
• Song of Farewell
• Dismissal

Duration of a Traditional Funeral Service

Traditional funerals last about 1 hour 15 minutes; Requiem Mass can extend 1–2 hours.

Funeral Service without a Mass

May include songs, prayers, eulogies; burial or cremation follows.

Catholic Funeral Etiquette

Observed quietly and reflectively; minimal conversation; non-Catholics may attend but avoid Communion.

What to Wear

Conservative, dark clothing; men: trousers & collared shirt with tie; women: dress, skirt, or trousers with top. White may be acceptable in some areas as a symbol of hope.

Acceptable Gifts

White flowers, crucifixes, prayer cards, religious statues, icon jewelry, memorial candles.

Roman Catholics and Cremation

Cremation is accepted but ashes should be kept in a sacred place. Can be direct cremation or traditional funeral followed by cremation.

Conclusion

Catholic funerals provide closure, comfort, and support for grieving families. Planning ahead eases stress and ensures a respectful farewell.

FAQ

How long after death should a Catholic be buried?

Within a week, to ensure the soul enters eternal rest promptly.

What is a Catholic vigil?

A service the night before the funeral with prayers, storytelling, and support for mourners.

What should I wear?

Conservative, dark attire; men: trousers & collared shirt with tie; women: dress, skirt, or trousers with top.

What is the rite of committal?

The final act of reverence at the cemetery, including prayers and burial.